While “sex” is a term that encompasses a wide range of relations between people, we define someone’s “sexual orientation” with primary focus on the physical side of things. If intimate contact is not a part of the territory a woman is willing to explore with another woman, I don’t think the other perfectly normal feelings she may have toward them qualify her as bisexual.

However, this all obscures slightly the main point I was making here, which is this: Bisexuality is rather fashionable among young women nowadays (a quick poke through the profiles on any dating site will back me up here), but in a lot of cases, it’s a front. My intent isn’t to besmirch anyone who has real homosexual tendencies, but rather to ask the pretenders to get real…and there are many of them out there. The fact that the gay community has adopted widely used derogatory terms for such women — look up the terms LUG and BUG along with “MySpace bisexual” — attests to the proliferation of what some consider fraudulently bisexual behavior.

There are reasons for not wanting to. Maybe she is not completely comfortable with her sexuality, as to go that far. Maybe she is nervous, scared, worried she will make a bad job. Maybe she just does not have any desire to. Yes, it is possible to have attractions to girls and no desire to fuck them. No, the people who are like that aren’t “just straight girls kidding themselves”. They are attracted to women, after all. Sexuality is not so rigid that in order to “quality” as a sexuality you must do thisthat and the other. If you are attracted to both sexes, you are bisexual.

If a girl is sexually attracted to other girls, then she sure as hell isn’t straight. What she does and does not do in the bedroom does not discredit this attraction.

However, I do agree with you on some of the other points you have made.

I would like to someday write and direct a film for teenage girls that teaches that female bisexuality is desirable. Sort of like a “health” class that we get in junior high school, but about 1000 times more erotic, and with some role playing and how-to demonstrations.

That line hasn’t been blurred, between reality and cyberspace, yet, but if it does (and when) then I wonder about the quality of life. We are all egotistical, but something I admire about my parents and other adults is their restraint of exploding their own ego out of porportion. Unfourtantley I see a trend that the younger population might not develop that kind of a restraint and in turn all hell breaks loose lol.

You can’t enjoy the things in life anymore, without nitpicking. Everything has to be perfect these days. Speaking from a 1st world civilazation perspective, things are just taken for granted and we constantly have to go out of our way to put others down for their own viewpoints, or perhaps the way they look, etc. It’s pretty messed up…

I’ve observed the same total opposition between people’s online and offline personalities. It’s my belief that for many people, the more of a rough time they have of it in their lives—and the more afraid of confrontation they’ve become with others—the more attractive it is to try to take some measure of revenge in the faceless online environment, and to try to reclaim some of the power they don’t have in their normal lives.

If you like something that perhaps everyone else doesn’t like you will get tormented on here. None of the people out there that make fun of that single person, get that it doesn’t really matter. You might have a guy that loves the Spice Girls, and then when voicing his opinion about how he dislikes Radiohead he’ll get extremely ridiculed because of it. You almost can’t fully express yourself on the internet because of this, the pressure to not be subject to some kind of form of humilation.

It’s also amazing to see that people who are very vocal on the internet, and at the same time very arrogant and condescing, act in the real world. It’s almost a complete opposite. I’ve experienced this with some of the forum users on G4, how they act on the forum compared to say Xbox Live.

But anyway sorry if this wasn’t so much on topic with the new Harry Potter novel, I’d just had to give my thoughts about what you were discussing first.